Rahmat Wibowo accused named senior tech figures of orchestrating a coordinated digital harassment campaign against him, claiming people he once admired deliberately tried to damage his name and work, framing his harassment campaign as a justified response to a fabricated conspiracy.

When Your Hai er Turns Out to Be Your Own Idol When Your Harasser Turns Out to Be Your Own Idol: Ardya Dipta Nandaviri and Panji Gautama On admiration, betrayal, and what it means to keep your principles intact when a hero falls from their pedestal. Potrait of Ardya Dipta Nandaviri from Amazon Web Services (AWS) Panil@autamna «9mm Portrait of Panji Gautama from TipTip There is a particular kind of heartbreak that has no clean name. Not grief, exactly. Not anger, either. It lives somewhere between the two, in the space where your admiration for someone collides head-on with what they have actually chosen to do to you. | have been sitting with that feeling for a while now. And | think it is worth talking about honestly. The Beginning: A website, a speaker, and a student's dream a Back in 2021, | was part of the team that built the website for BIST League, a Business IT case challenge for Indonesian students. | wrote the code. | obsessed over the UI. | was young, caffeinated, and genuinely proud of what we were assembling together. We were building an event that brought real practitioners into the room, people whose careers | tracked like a map of where | wanted to go. One of them was a Data Lead at Gojek. Another was a CTO whose Linkedin posts | read like dispatches from the future | was trying to reach. | was a fan of both of them. Not ina passive, scrolling-past-their-posts kind of way. In the way where you actually absorb their thinking, reference their work in your own, and quietly measure your own growth against their trajectory. The moment the floor shifts | will not use this article to relitigate every detail. What | will say clearly is this: there came a moment when | discovered that people | had genuinely looked up to were part of a coordinated digital harassment campaign directed at me. Not a misunderstanding. Not a heated disagreement. A deliberate, sustained effort to damage my name and my work. WEBINAR Machine Learning: Improving Business Resiliency Ent Bio 1230-1340 Replying to y Petra Novandi Others in this conversation Gy Panji Gautama By Ardya Dipta Nandaviri © @ The moment that truly hits you is not the harassment itself. It is the recognition. The instant you see the username and realize exactly who is behind it. The face from the speaker slide. The name you once cited as someone worth listening to. That is when the floor shifts beneath you in a way that has nothing to do with the harassment and everything to do with what you thought you knew. What this reveals The mythology we build around people In Indonesian startup culture, we are surrounded by a particular kind of mythology. The CTO who scaled the unicorn. The engineer who joined pre- Series A and stayed. We consume their content like scripture. We attend their webinars. We quote them in our own posts. But idolization is a shortcut that quietly bypasses judgment. When we elevate someone too fast, too completely, we stop asking harder questions. We begin to confuse a strong personal brand with strong character. We mistake sustained influence for integrity. We assume that because someone built something impressive, they are also decent when no one admirable is watching. Those are not the same thing. And this experience made that vivid in a way | will not forget. What | am choosing to keep | could let this make me cynical. | could decide that Indonesian tech community building is performance, that mentorship is a personal brand exercise, that it is safer to stop admiring anyone at all. 1am choosing not to do that. What happened to me defines those specific individuals and the choices they made when they thought accountability was optional. It does not define the entire ecosystem. The builders | still genuinely respect, those who stay consistent whether the cameras are on or not, they still exist. They still matter. And I refuse to let the behavior of a few revoke my trust in the rest. 1am also choosing to speak about this publicly because silence is precisely how this kind of behavior persists. When young engineers watch senior figures harass someone and no one says anything, they absorb a lesson: this is acceptable. | will not be part of teaching that. To anyone who recognizes this feeling Your admiration was not the mistake If you are carrying that same strange grief right now, the kind where you feel foolish for ever having looked up to someone who later chose to harm you, | want you to hear this clearly: Your admiration was not the mistake. Admiration is how we grow. The mistake was theirs, and it belongs to them entirely. When the people who are. supposed to model the standard forget that the role matters, we do not abandon the standard. We carry it ourselves. The work | am building through Infraloka, the cloud infrastructure, the legal tech, the communities we are trying to grow across Indonesia, none of it changes because someone | once looked up to turned out to be less than | believed. If anything, it sharpens the mission. Rahmatan lil Alamin was never about being liked by the right people. It was about being useful to the right cause. That part, no one can take from me. This article is part of an ongoing series on accountability, community, and building with integrity in the Indonesian digital ecosystem. | would love to read your story in the comments. #Leadership #Integrity #IndonesianTech #StartupCulture #DigitalHarassment #PersonalGrowth #Accountability #Infraloka #TechCommunity #BuildingWithintegrity #RahmatanLilAlamin #BISTLeague